‘L i f e   S u c k e r s’   You know, the ones that latch on and suck you bone dry. Maybe you know one? Maybe you are one? I think we all have practiced several of these simultaneously, whether we wish to confess it or not.

Its true. We’re all ‘Life Suckers’ at different points and times in our lives.

Maybe you are unsure whether or not you fit into the category of professional  ‘L i f e   S u c k e r’. Follow this guide; and you’ll be well on your way to sucking the life from your relationships.



30 Steps to Becoming a Professional  ‘L i f e   S u c k e r’

{A short guide to draining the life out of your relationships}

  Be all things to all people; even if it means living life as a two-face.

{2.} Be overly dramatic, make mountains out of mole hills. Create a new crisis as often as needed. Make it a good one!

{3.} Be overly critical; find fault in everyone and every thing that comes in your path.

{4.} Be a chronic complainer; complain about everything! E.g. {Husband, House, Job, People, Money, Weather etc.}

{5.} Be argumentative; even if it’s petty or insignificant or inconsequential – never agree to disagree, stand your guard. Remember, you’re always right! Make sure others know that. Stand strong!

{6.} Relentlessly demand and persist; and never take no, for an answer!

{7.} Speak negatively about everything and everyone. Always look at life with the glass half empty. Besides if we’re unhappy – why should anyone else be?

{8.} Never accept responsibility for your actions or your words; blame everyone but yourself.

{9.} Gossip – a lot! Make your stories so interesting that they keep coming back for more!{10.} Be a drama addict; share your tales of woe; life’s never easy for you, go ahead – let it all out. And let it out with a shout!

{11.} Display a constant array of theatrical shows; let yourself be noticed. Social media is a great way to share and display these great masterpieces of art.

{12.} Be excessively needy; look to people for your strength.

{13.} Demand of others time and energy.

{14.} Be a user; use people until you can’t use them anymore, after that – find someone new!

{15.} Be a taker; don’t worry about giving back. You deserve it!

{16.} Manipulate. Manipulate. You can take advantage this way.

{17.} Be a bottomless emotional pit; life is hard – share every emotion possible! Free yourself on others.

{18.} Take complete control of your life. Its  yours anyway.

{19.} Guilt trip the life out of people. If they couldn’t do something or be there for you at the time you needed them most. Give it to them. Let ’em have it good.

{20.} Tear people down. Its easier!

Slander the life out of others right behind their back. They’ll never know.

{22.} Unmotivate yourself. Don’t get off the couch or out of bed. Don’t worry about setting goals and aiming for them.

{23.} Make excessive excuses. Everything needs a good excuse. E.g. Lack of Sleep, Work, Church, Friends, Kids, Commitments etc.

{24.} Be a victim player; its them not you.

{25.} Make sure to praise your efforts publicly.

{26.} Live in anger and bitterness; never drop your guard to forgive. You’ll lose ground.

{27.} Let your circumstances control your attitude.

{28.} Let people bail you out of your mistakes. After all they probably helped you get their anyway!

{29.} Feel insecure, inadequate or incapable of carrying your life duties. Sulking is good for keeping up your attitude on life. Remember, life just stinks!

{30.} Compare your life with others. Let jealousy rule over your life. Don’t look for the “good” in your life. Its not that great anyway.

Let’s face it, no one really likes to be around a ‘Life Sucker.’ 

If you are a ‘Life Sucker’ your life will rub sorely on those around you. You will eventually burn every bridge you’ve crossed and close every door you’ve ever wanted to enter. It’s a habit that takes considerable amounts of our life from us. It kills every relationship we enter. One little action at a time.
For the ‘Life Sucker’ You can choose to pour life or choose to pour death into your relationships {the people; you so dearly love.} When choosing to let God define you, it frees you from all unhealthy dependence’s on people that you latch on to give you an identity. Choosing to let God have first place in every relationship frees you from the bondage of critical attitudes, and a negative spirit. 

Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; And see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24
Instead of a ‘Life Sucker’ choose to be a  L I F E   G I V E R.  ‘Life givers’ choose a life that pours God’s love and grace on others. Leaving them a well-lived out abundant life. The life Christ died to give every one of us.
 Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.  Galatians 5:1

For those who know a ‘Life Sucker Choosing to forgive breaks the chains that undoubtedly suffocate you. You have the chance to show grace instead of throwing out God’s grace. God’s gift
of grace has been so lavished on you. Live His example and give grace that was given so freely to you. Remember that God allows blessings to come — even thru the terrible messy relationships. 

See, I have set before you today life and good, death and evil, in that I command you today to love the LORD your God, to walk in His ways, and keep His commandments, His statues, and His judgements, that you may live and multiply; and the LORD your God will bless you in the land which you go to possess. Deuteronomy 30:15-16


This post is part of a mini series. Read part two:


30 Steps to Becoming a   ‘L i f e   G i v e r’

{A short guide to revitalizing and energizing your relationships}


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